Divorce is a difficult and stressful process, but when a marriage becomes unhealthy or otherwise untenable, it would ultimately be more harmful to both parties if they stayed married. In this blog post, we’ll go over some common mistakes people make during the divorce process. Avoid these mistakes and put yourself in the best possible position to have the most stress-free divorce possible. If you’re preparing to get a divorce, get in touch right away with an experienced Shelby County, Tennessee divorce lawyer.
Top Mistakes to Avoid When Getting a Divorce
Being Chatty on Social Media
With technology having become firmly rooted as an extension of our day-to-day lives, what we do and say online can have ramifications as profound for a lawsuit as what we do and say in the physical world. Lawyers for both sides research carefully everything they can find about the other side.
This is true for divorce as well. Talking about your divorce online is obviously going to have consequences, but so can posts about seemingly unrelated topics. You should know that the lawyers for your ex will be watching your social media accounts, and if they find something there they can relate to your case, you might have issues on any number of points from alimony to child custody.
Talking in a Moment of Emotion to Your Ex
If you believe you can speak calmly with your ex, then you might not cause yourself difficulties down the road by speaking to them. Human beings are creatures of emotions and it is normal to feel strong strong emotions during a divorce. However, if these strong emotions cause you to speak cruelly to your ex, then that may indeed cause you small and significant problems later on.
Anything you say to your spouse will likely be used during the divorce proceedings. It may even be worse if you send your spouse text messages or computer communications, as those will leave a written record. That allows your ex’s attorney to work directly with your words, instead of having to rely on their own and their client’s fallible human memory.
Finding New Fish in the Sea
Dating during a divorce may be very tempting. You’re already stressed and exhausted. If by chance you find someone who makes you happy and gives you the support you need, wanting to start dating them is more than understandable.
However, it is best that you and your new partner wait until the divorce proceedings wrap up, even if these take an unfortunately longer time than you would hope. You’ll want to avoid how dating can negatively affect negotiations on child custody.