Do not date. You are married. Your spouse can use it against you. If you are divorced, moving in with your lover could cause problems with parenting or alimony. If you do date, be prepared to face the problems that may arise. Tell me about it, because if I am surprised by it in court, it will hurt your case. If you date, do not throw it in your spouse’s face. This will make bad feelings worse and is proof against you at trial (confession). Avoid dating at social events your spouse may attend. Really avoid having your picture taken and published in a society column, magazine or online. Remember, it will be hard to explain why you “did not pay” or “cannot afford” it if you took your date on an expensive event or trip.
Do Not Lie About Dating. Although judges do not like people “fooling around,” they are not usually too angry when they hear about it. Judges are much more likely to get mad if they are being lied to. Lying under oath can result in your going to jail for contempt of court of the crime of perjury.